Though that will not happen in my life. Because being in a cycle of dysfunction can really hurt your self-esteem and your self-worth. But dont give up on them, they need you. As a parent with 2 children with a life long condition, your lucky to have what you have ( im taking that they are both healthy?) Some people would give anything to have a child, while others are mourning the death of theirs. Peopl either want to gossip your problems or treat you as thought you're mad. Three years ago, she was calling me names and yelling. I cry all of the time. I get it: You don't want children. Join the Press community and help support independent local journalism in Houston. My life is hell daily. It is hard to have such a big age gap with kids i have too. Does he know how you're feeling? Sometimes we go out and its ok but most times they fight and the older one alwways talks back they never listen to me. You've had such a lot to contend with - is it a possibility that you may been depressed? Ask Willie D anything at askwillied.com, and come back next Thursday for more of his best answers. What other secrets are you keeping?". Well, for some people at least. Welcome to Ask Willie D, Rocks Off's advice column where the Geto Boys MC answers reader questions about matters, in his own words, "funny, serious or unpredictable." We don't have the money or space for a third but in my heart I feel like my family isn't finished. There are women who prefer to date politicians. Older children may become withdrawn, show disinterest or just be blunt and say, 'I don’t want to go'. 8 months … You were little more than a child yourself when you had your first baby. The first time I said it out loud, I was alone in the bathroom at home. They will find them a family that will love and care for them. i know im being really selfish and the kids need me trust me i have really tried but im fed up now. Others aren't quite so convinced however, like this bunch of unhappy kids for example. 4 years ago. 'After a few hours of staying at mine, my son says he wants to go home and doesn’t want to stay overnight.' Say, “With how things are financially, I just don’t think we can afford another kid. In many cases older men provide much more stability and fidelity in a relationship than younger men because they've already made all of the mistakes and sowed their wild oats. Well now i really really don't want my kids. I'm just irritated! I feel terrible but I don't want to be around her anymore. Actually I think that you are quite smart to know that this is something that you don’t want in life. If we're going to call the women who date famous men gold-diggers, at the least the other women have to be called copper-scoopers. We all need time for ourselves. It was a small gathering; maybe 20 people -- mostly couples -- but lo and behold my ex-boyfriend's old girlfriend was there. 38 Comments. Have you been able to talk to anyone about how you are feeling. I knew i just wasnt ready for another baby. We offered my son $200 for his “birthday party”. There isn’t. You don’t want to be her husband any more, but you may not want to end the relationship with a negative note. "She's complained how our youngest doesn't need her anymore but I can't afford to support a bounty of children!" I agree, its sounds like your suffering from depression, have you spoken to your GP about the way your feeling? i absolutely applaud you for having the courage to admit how youre feeling on here, and im glad everyone has replied supportively and not judged you like you probably thought they would. Posted on 30-08-2009 at 2.44PM . But it was more than just a rough night; it was a stark and deeply unpleasant sense that there had been many nights like this and there would be many more to come. Should I find someone closer to my age or go for it? He says he respects my opinion but he just really wants a girl. Deb H's lovely post gives a lot of hope for the future and some good ways to begin to think of yourself and getting your life back on course once you feel a bit better. You are not alone! Last message from previous page: Not sure if you will receive this, but it sounds similar to how I am just now, and wondered how/ if/ hopefully you got through it x. All rights reserved. A 14 year old who is into bondage and has a 12 year old daughter...or something like that. at the end of the day no matter what your kids say or do they love you have you heard the saying any man can be a dad but you only get one mum and its true go to the doctors, Hi Anon I now am isolated and depressed. Personally, I don't see why you didn't just tell him from the start. A child under five may appear clingy, cry, scream or pretend to be ill. Even qualified doctors can't diagnose over the internet, so do bear that in mind when seeking or giving advice. Offering our readers free access to incisive coverage of local news, food and culture. Please come back on and talk some more. Really really hard. I don't want my kids anymore . Oldest First. I don't know what to do. It worries me that you have so little support. They were hard to say. However, because of his business he does know a lot of famous people. I don't want my child anymore? She is manipulative and always saying mean, rude things to me. It’s been a challenge already and to imagine multiplying that by two, three, four is frightening. Don’t beat yourself up anymore, thinking there’s something wrong with you. Which is a sad truth. being a parent is hard but especially if you are a single mother because u dont have that other someone to say 'please take then for five min' u never get a break and i can see how that can be hard so dont beat yourself up,  but i agree that yor symptoms do sound like depression so i also suggest you go and see your GP as they will be able to help you and plus we are all here for you too. 4 years ago. When I first started talking to him I saw him as strictly a friend. Then I wake the babies up, starting with the oldest so she can help me with the others. You can help by participating in our "I Support" membership program, allowing us to keep covering Houston with no paywalls. I can't say that you'll ever fully regain your fiancé's trust, but you can calm his nerves by telling him you love him, and sincerely apologizing for not being forthcoming. Will you make an appointment to see your GP? This is the place to chat about your relationships with your in-laws, parents and other relatives, and get support from others who understand whatever it is you're going through. I think I did it because I wanted a lifeline. My husband wants a girl but I don't care if the baby is s girl or a boy. The kids walk all over me, they are insolent little brats, and I can't stand to be around them. whatever lol i felt sorry for you enough but the fact your child was conceived through rape must obviously add to this. (I’ve been uncomfortable around kids since I was a kid.) I'm constantly shouting at her and have smacked her a few times (though not overly hard) just out of sheer frustration. Could you take your little one to a play group in your area when your eldest is in school? The kids walk all over me, they are insolent little brats, and I can't stand to be around them. Careers, But I just don't want anymore kids Gosh!!! But with local journalism's existence under siege and advertising revenue setbacks having a larger impact, it is important now more than ever for us to rally support behind funding our local journalism. I used to be a very happy and positive person. But somehow talking on the phone with a good friend whom you want to be romantically involved with just don't seem as fun as rolling in the hay with them. i dont know what advice to give you but i really did not want to read and run! They were from a place of real agonizing pain. I'm totally loosing the will to live and would rather be dead than have to inflict my daughter with the awful mother that I am. you do sound very down like the other members have said go to your doctors its a big step and they wont judge you they are there to help its a start have you no family to help? My husband cheated on me when i was 3 months pregnant with my 2 month old. I am beginning to say to her things I feel terrible about. 4 Answers. 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